I have to admit having summer workers is giving me lots to think about, today during lunch besides their usual homophobic remarks, there was a sudden surge of each person trying to out do the other by means of how many girls they have slept with, and the current number they are juggling. Each trying to outdo the other ( its like watching monkeys in a cage) then the subject of sports came up, who plays what...then the inevitable how much can you drink question. The way in which women are referred to got me pissed, to them women are no more than objects, trophies to say..."hey i did that"....I dunno why i was pissed at it, maybe because i have so many sisters , i would hate for any guy to refer to them as a trophy. These questions and answers all seem to prove whether or not these str8ies are masculine in the eyes of their peers, which brings me to the questions how do you prove your masculinity in the gay world? Do i sleep around with as many men as possible, boast about it, do i drink myself into a coma, ....or do i do as many str8 things as possible, including acting str8 --to prove my masculinity...do i top only? Are tops considered the masculine ones in the relationship? Its a question that i can't find a solid answer to, it can be many things....but I'm pretty sure its doesn't fall into the how many people you slept with category, in my book that's just tasteless.How about not showing emotion, guys who are in touch with their feelings are always labeled as gay, the old age saying "boys don't cry" come to mind.Masculinity and being gay just seems to cancel each other out, how can you be masculine , and be in love with another man....this subject is a big one, my opinion a masculine man is all about behavior, you walk tall, deep voice, manly ways, outdoorish....nothing to do with the numbers of men you bed. How did i prove my masculinity to them? afterall i was at the same table, when the question of how many girls I have now...I simply said my days of playing the field are over...laughter ensued ....i said" laugh nah the day you find the right one you guys will be the same way"....one the guys guys made a cracking whip sound (indicating i was pussy whipped) I laughed, not at that but at the fact that girls are the last thing on my mind....
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I have to admit having summer workers is giving me lots to think about, today during lunch besides their usual homophobic remarks, there was a sudden surge of each person trying to out do the other by means of how many girls they have slept with, and the current number they are juggling. Each trying to outdo the other ( its like watching monkeys in a cage) then the subject of sports came up, who plays what...then the inevitable how much can you drink question. The way in which women are referred to got me pissed, to them women are no more than objects, trophies to say..."hey i did that"....I dunno why i was pissed at it, maybe because i have so many sisters , i would hate for any guy to refer to them as a trophy. These questions and answers all seem to prove whether or not these str8ies are masculine in the eyes of their peers, which brings me to the questions how do you prove your masculinity in the gay world? Do i sleep around with as many men as possible, boast about it, do i drink myself into a coma, ....or do i do as many str8 things as possible, including acting str8 --to prove my masculinity...do i top only? Are tops considered the masculine ones in the relationship? Its a question that i can't find a solid answer to, it can be many things....but I'm pretty sure its doesn't fall into the how many people you slept with category, in my book that's just tasteless.How about not showing emotion, guys who are in touch with their feelings are always labeled as gay, the old age saying "boys don't cry" come to mind.Masculinity and being gay just seems to cancel each other out, how can you be masculine , and be in love with another man....this subject is a big one, my opinion a masculine man is all about behavior, you walk tall, deep voice, manly ways, outdoorish....nothing to do with the numbers of men you bed. How did i prove my masculinity to them? afterall i was at the same table, when the question of how many girls I have now...I simply said my days of playing the field are over...laughter ensued ....i said" laugh nah the day you find the right one you guys will be the same way"....one the guys guys made a cracking whip sound (indicating i was pussy whipped) I laughed, not at that but at the fact that girls are the last thing on my mind....
Monday, June 29, 2009
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That sort of conversation is kind of dangerous. Your approach — being the wise old master who is beyond their youthful frivolity — is probably a good one.
Masculinity — books have been written, but being protective comes to mind.
Ahh yes protector , makes me think.
masculinity - taking responsablity, being all 'grown up', making thoes hard decisions - to me that makes a man...
@angie: Yea that sounds like a real man to me.
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